Apparently I am really not the person I was. I’m surprisingly okay with this and simultaneously freaking the hell out about it.
I do a lot of self-eval. Like, probably too much for my own good. I am completely aware of myself, and yet… somehow I didn’t realize I was changing.
I guess I got distracted. Getting sick a few months ago, followed by aftershocks that just won’t scram, has kept my focus more on my body than on my mind. (I haven’t been this skinny since middle school, and I’m quite a bit taller than I was then. And turns out gaining weight back is way more of a project than I would’ve expected before I ended up losing like ten pounds I barely had to begin with in about a week.) But the more I think about it, the more likely it is that this all started before a new part of my body turned traitorous.
That’s the weird thing – there’s no real origin point here. At least, not that I can find.
I could’ve gone on oblivious for at least another couple of months if one of my friends hadn’t accidentally triggered the realization last week. Total accident, as such things always are – all my friend Lauren did was write a meta about something we’re both into. Even allowing that I use fictional characters to deal with my life, this really shouldn’t have been a problem. Except that it was.
There’s nothing like seeing your questionable-but-effective survival mechanisms outlined perfectly. Nothing like seeing your soul exposed.
I know myself better now. I know that I have stronger caretaker instincts than I previously thought. I know that I just wanna fix people, I wanna be decent and I wanna wrap my pack up in bubble-wrap and keep them somewhere no one can ever hurt them again. I know that my love is fierce and protective and my heart is so much bigger than I used to think it was. I know that I’m going to be an amazing partner for someone someday. I know that I’m going to be a good mother when my time comes.
Sometimes new perspective changes everything. Sometimes it saves you.
I’m not the disaster girl I thought I was. I’m still reckless and heart-driven, but there’s more of a purpose to it now. I’m not as dangerous, but I’m more powerful than ever. I don’t wanna set things on fire (as much); instead, I want to create them.
The day after all of this went down, I was trying to explain it to my friend Liv and the phrase “lay your weapons down” kept repeating in my head for no apparent reason. I’m not sure what this means to me yet, but it’s something.
I’m not who I used to be. I’m so much better.
I feel alive now in ways I didn’t know were possible. My heart’s racing a lot like it does when I have a crush on someone new, except that I’m not fluttery for anyone at all right now (cute unattainable girl at work Does Not Count because even at my worst I’ve never been that kind of self-destructive). I have plans, and they’re ambitious and good and I’ve never wanted anything more in my life.
The storm is over, the cocoon is wasting away, and I’ve got my wings back. Now to figure out what to do with ’em…